But seriously, how do you not remember everything that made you happy?  How do I stop remembering things about my mom?  How do I stop looking at something and having it remind me of my mother?  Because I would really like to know, because I feel like I am still perpetually sad, and I just don’t want to cry anymore.  I think I have enough crying and I want to move to the “happy” part. You know that part of mourning that people talk where you only remember the good times? But when I remember the good times it makes me sad, because I won’t be able to remember those things with my mom and be able to do them with my mom again.  So  when does that part come?  Because I would really like that to happen before I go home.